James and Tammy McGruder have been married for 38 years. Both say they are each other’s best friends and the loves of each other’s lives. They stood together throughout James’ Army career, where he served in field artillery and retired as a sergeant major.
The couple has remained busy enjoying family life and volunteering. For years, James has supported Fisher House Michigan and other organizations by sharing his rendition of the poem “Old Glory” during events. He is known for inspiring patriotism in others, often standing proudly before audiences to honor the American flag.
In 2025, that familiar rhythm changed when James began experiencing moments when he could not feel his legs.
“Something was wrong. We knew something was wrong. We just didn’t know what. So I was trying to push on through it,” explained James. “But we went to the hospital. They did a full body scan, and the full body scan showed the tumor.”
James was diagnosed with cancer that had spread throughout his ribs, back and spine, and was sent for immediate surgery. When he awoke, he had lost feeling in his legs, and doctors feared he would remain paralyzed.
“He spent 31 days at Walter Reed and then 95 days at the Richmond VA. And that brings us to the Fisher House,” said Tammy.
Tammy stayed at the Richmond Fisher House from June to September. During that time, she was by James’ bedside through surgeries and therapy.
James said the house allowed Tammy to be with him, care for him through difficult nights and play a major part in his recovery.
Tammy said Fisher House and its community gave her strength to be there for her husband. She found comfort in connecting with other family members, sharing stories and knowing someone was always there to talk.
Tammy befriended other guests, and they encouraged and supported one another. She also shared that care with other veterans receiving treatment, bringing them watermelon or other treats and offering a listening ear.
“They helped me get through the stressful moments. It kept my mind busy because I love to help people. Helping others, that’s what helped me get through,” she said.
James and Tammy both felt that their time at Fisher House was crucial. Tammy explained that to be there for James, she also needed to take care of herself. At the house, she could get the rest she needed and return to the hospital each morning. James, in turn, knew she was in a safe, stable place when she went to rest.
Tammy recalled one night when several guests gathered in the kitchen to talk about their situations. Their conversation comforted her and helped her feel less alone.
“We ended the night and continued with our journey in the morning. That’s what we do. It’s not just a house, it’s more like family.”
With Tammy’s help and prayers, James regained feeling and, through hard work, grit and physical therapy, learned to walk again.
As he continues his recovery, James remains optimistic and committed to giving back. On a recent trip to the Richmond VA Medical Center, he stopped to visit the medical professionals who cared for him. He also shared words of wisdom and faith with veterans receiving care at the Spinal Cord Injuries and Disorders Center, encouraging others as he has for years.